I've been working with Jay for the past year or so. To say he has impacted my life in a positive way would be an understatement. He has ten-fold the way my self-beliefs and thoughts have changed for the better.
Two of the most important concepts I've learned that I wanted to share back as they keep resonating with me:

One of the most important things you need to learn in life (in my opinion) is to make sure your needs are getting met. Not just sexual, but emotional needs, intellectual, spiritual, etc. And learning how to communicate these needs in an effective manner is of the upmost importance.

Secondly, knowing how to not only set but keep and communicate boundaries that are in accordance with your self-beliefs.

Neglecting to impose or to learn either of these pillars is a gross impediment to not only happiness but better inner peace.

"Just talking to someone who understands my issues already feels like a huge weight is off my shoulders and reduced my anxiety.  My wife has noticed a huge change in how I show up in our marriage now.  I have learned more in a few weeks than I have in years of therapy"

- Paret

When I called you back in March, I was in a pit of despair. I didn’t know how to get out and didn’t see  solution in sight. Over the past 6 months I have not only done integration work but also a things to reinstill and nourish confidence. I’ve created a business and reconnected with friends. I’ve taken psychadelics and journaled almost daily. I’ve explored parts of my upbringing I haven’t thought about in ages. I’ve expressed myself in art.  I’ve gone on adventures and reestablished myself as the main character in the story of my life. Also, inspire of all these great things, I also recognize I’m not fully where i want to be. I would probably be disappointed if me from today spoke me from March this year and told him where I am today with so much uncertainty still ahead. But thr said I feel more comfortable with the uncertainty that lies ahead than back in March. Daily I’m coming to realizations about myself and my parents and why I act the way I do and how their raising of me contributes to that. So while I’m not entirely where I want to be, I feel that everyday I’m getting closer. This journey isn’t a day hike where you see the vista at the end. It feels more like the PCT and for long stretches it’s not all that interesting so you have to find ways to make it interesting along the way much like life. I’m learning to enjoy the journey and if there’s something I don’t like about to along the way I should make that change now rather than later. 

I am also reminded that this type of journey is not short. It takes a long time. You told me you took many years reading and leaning about things before you got to here. And I think something i forget living in a convenience focused society is that as much as we want everything right now, some of these things take time to understand. Googling an answer isn’t the same as living the experience that gives you the answer.   So in sum, I’ve done a lot and have a lot to go. But the difference between myself 6 months ago and today is I understand myself better. I’ve developed a framework and habit to think and meditate and reevaluate things that I hadn’t before. I am less fearful. I am less secure. I have a better understanding of where those fears and insecurities stem from and can better recognize when they come out. I am becoming more and more authentic. I think with all that I’ve gained I’m better positioned and more confident to continue tackling issues in my life than I was before. 
- Edward

Since beginning this journey, something in me has undeniably shifted. I used to move through life trying to prove, perform, and perfect — chasing validation, overthinking every word, living unconsciously, and trying to people please everyone. I didn’t realize how much of my worth was tethered to being seen as "enough" in others' eyes, trying to impress everyone.
But now… there’s space. There’s awareness. There’s choice. There’s living in consciousness again…acting with purpose everyday. Running, lifting, work, family, travel, etc.
I’ve done the uncomfortable work — not just intellectually, but emotionally. I’ve faced my patterns, named my triggers, and owned my reactions. I’ve stopped running from discomfort and started sitting with it. Not wanting to live in fear anymore or avoidance. And in that space, I’ve found clarity, strength, and self-respect.
I no longer crumble under criticism. I can hold feedback and not let it define me. One person’s opinion of me is not my reality. I will fail and that’s okay. I can feel anger and not let it control me. I’ve built boundaries that honor my needs — not walls to shut people out, but gates that I control. I speak more truth. I recover faster. I trust myself more.
What I’m experiencing now is a sense of grounded power. I am no longer waiting for the world to validate me. I know who I am, and I know what I bring. And while I’m still growing — always will be — I can finally say this with full conviction:
I’ve done the work. And I’m proud of the man I’m becoming.
Here’s to every uncomfortable moment that led me here.
Here’s to choosing truth over comfort, and wholeness over approval.
And here’s to what’s ahead — because I’m ready for it.

“When I first started this journey, my life was consumed by work and obligations. I didn’t have much space to think about what I really wanted. Through Jay’s coaching, I’ve learned to pause, reflect, and live with more intention. I’ve built habits that keep me focused on my growth, deepened my self-awareness, and started mapping out a clear plan for my next chapter — including meaningful study and professional opportunities. I feel more confident in my ability to handle uncertainty, set boundaries, and take purposeful action. This process hasn’t just given me tools; it’s given me the belief that I can create the life I’ve wanted for years.”

I have come a long way. Perhaps the most rewarding thing has been the comments, interest, and expectations of my wife. We are communicating better, enjoying better intimacy, and calling each other out rather than witholding feelings and building resentment. She has seen the difference and she likes the changes. I also like the perspective this work has given me regarding my job, its stresses and challenges. I don't discount my contributions and efforts like I used to. I'm also less likely to second guess what co-workers and physician owners are thinking or assuming. I do good work and they are lucky to have me. Enjoying life more, being in the present more, relishing the great moments, and being more grateful are also good results. Being more picky about how I spend my time and energy has been important as this helps meet my needs. Being authentically assertive and not feeling bad about it. Taking the lead in situations more than I used to. Being better about pursuing what I want. Understanding how some nice guy attributes will still be there and that's a good thing because they are part of who I am, but they no longer hold me back or cause self-doubt. Ongoing process.
- Mark

It’s hard to believe that in the beginning i was completely lost, anxious, scared about my relationship with my partner, i remember freaking out about my conversations, my actions with her, i didin’t really know what i was doing wrong, i was so scared to do something wrong, and then with this program little by little i began to take steps to take better care of my self, loving my self more, so that i don’t depend emotionally on someone else. I’m not going to lie, there has been moments still that i catch myself (especially when i burn out) that i see myself getting passive aggresive again, but i acknowledge it imemediately and do something about it. there were also few times where i didn’t know how to handle situations where i didn’t want to give up my power but also not create a misunderstanding in my relationship, i learned how to handle better those situations. now i think i just need to continue journaling my feelings and checking with guy friends.

-Eduardo