Testimonials
Real Stories. Lasting Change.
What clients say after doing the deep work of Nice Guy Recovery and integration.
“Six months ago, I was in a pit of despair. Now I’m building a life I’m proud of.”
Six months ago, I was in a pit of despair with no way out. Today, I’ve built a business, rekindled friendships, expressed myself through art, and begun truly understanding myself. I’m less fearful, more confident, and better equipped to face life’s uncertainties. This journey isn’t instant—it’s a deep, ongoing process—but I now have the tools, habits, and mindset to keep moving toward the life I want.
“I no longer need the world to validate me — I know who I am.”
I used to move through life proving, performing, and perfecting — chasing validation and trying to be ‘enough’ in others’ eyes. Now, there’s space, awareness, and choice. I’ve faced my patterns, owned my triggers, and built boundaries that honor my needs. I no longer crumble under criticism or avoid discomfort. I speak more truth, recover faster, and trust myself more deeply. What I feel now is grounded power — a confidence rooted in knowing who I am and what I bring. I’m proud of the man I’m becoming, and I’m ready for whatever’s next.
“This work has given me clarity, confidence, and a real sense of direction for my life.”
When I first started this journey, my life was consumed by work and obligations. I didn’t have much space to think about what I really wanted. Through Jay’s coaching, I’ve learned to pause, reflect, and live with more intention. I’ve built habits that keep me focused on my growth, deepened my self-awareness, and started mapping out a clear plan for my next chapter — including meaningful study and professional opportunities. I feel more confident in my ability to handle uncertainty, set boundaries, and take purposeful action. This process hasn’t just given me tools; it’s given me the belief that I can create the life I’ve wanted for years.
“Improving my health gave me back the energy and clarity I didn’t realize I’d been missing for years.”
Looking back, I realize how much an ongoing health problem had been quietly running in the background of my life. It was always there — subtle but constant — taking energy and focus without me even realizing it. Through my coaching with Jay, I not only became more aware of how much this was affecting me, but I also built habits and routines that have improved my health and well-being. With that weight lifted, my mental clarity and drive have returned. I now have the energy to focus on what truly matters, pursue my goals with intention, and show up fully in every area of my life. I feel healthier, more grounded, and more in control of my future than I have in years.
“Jay encouraged me to step beyond my comfort zone in ways I never would have on my own — and it’s changed how I live.”
Jay has a way of helping you step into opportunities you might have once avoided. He encourages you to explore new experiences, embrace discomfort, and discover the growth waiting on the other side. Whether it’s building the courage to take decisive action or learning to go for what I truly want in life, his coaching has helped me expand my confidence, strengthen my resilience, and broaden my vision for what’s possible. Jay doesn’t just give advice — he models the mindset and habits that make real, lasting change possible.
“Jay Scott and the Integrated Male system are highly effective in assisting men in transcending the limitations of the 'nice guy' mentality.”
Jay Scott and the Integrated Male system are highly effective in assisting men in transcending the limitations of the "nice guy" mentality, people-pleasing behaviors, and in uncovering their intrinsic self-worth. I cannot emphasize enough how profoundly Jay has facilitated my progress in overcoming a mindset characterized by rigid contractual thinking. For example, he adeptly guided me through the challenges of rumination and overthinking, which has significantly enhanced my overall quality of life. I wholeheartedly recommend his services; at the very least, I encourage you to take advantage of his complimentary consultation session to explore how he can assist you in advancing your personal development.
- Troy
- Troy
“Just talking to someone who understands my issues already feels like a huge weight is off my shoulders.”
Just talking to someone who understands my issues already feels like a huge weight is off my shoulders and reduced my anxiety. My wife has noticed a huge change in how I show up in our marriage now. I have learned more in a few weeks than I have in years of therapy.
- Paret
- Paret
“Jay has a special gift of taking hard to understand concepts and making them incredibly easy to understand and implement.”
Jay has a special gift of taking hard to understand concepts and making them incredibly easy to understand and implement. It's really amazing! He has this ability to spot the issue and help me find the solution.
- Andreas
- Andreas
“What I love about working with Jay is the follow up and accountability he provides to help me make lasting changes.”
What I love about working with Jay is the follow up and accountability he provides to help me make lasting changes. I don't have to take notes or ever wonder what to do between calls. I have everything I need to make the changes I want to make.
- Matthew
- Matthew
“Honest, real, incredibly knowledgeable, yet down to earth — Jay Scott is a perfect choice for Men’s Coaching.”
Honest, real, incredibly knowledgeable, yet down to earth, Jay Scott is a perfect choice for Men’s Coaching. Jay is a kind man and great listener. His calm demeanor and full, present engagement always leave me feeling better and give me crucial direction with some succinct gems of wisdom. Besides being a coaching client, I have participated in a Jay-led group for over a year, and it has been extremely beneficial, not to mention fun!
- Tony V.
- Tony V.
“Your presence has just the right touch — present, supportive, non-judgmental, and never imposing.”
Jay, your presence, while never intrusive (which is saying a lot in your role), has just the right touch. Present, supportive, non-judgmental, helpful but not preachy or imposing.
- James
- James
“The men's group is my favorite event of the week.”
The men's group is my favorite event of the week. Jay's deep observation skills and kind advice make even difficult conversations enjoyable. Having a connection with real guys and the ability to put what you're going through in context is the perfect break from being stuck with your own thoughts.
- M.H.
- M.H.