What clients say after doing the deep work of Nice Guy Recovery and integration.
6-Month Transformation
“Six months ago, I was in a pit of despair. Now I’m building a life I’m proud of.”
When I started, I felt hopeless. Six months later, I’ve built a business, reconnected with friends, explored my past, and developed daily habits for self-reflection. I’m less fearful, more confident, and finally becoming my authentic self.
Six months ago, I was in a pit of despair with no way out. Today, I’ve built a business, rekindled friendships, expressed myself through art, and begun truly understanding myself. I’m less fearful, more confident, and better equipped to face life’s uncertainties. This journey isn’t instant—it’s a deep, ongoing process—but I now have the tools, habits, and mindset to keep moving toward the life I want.
Client, 2025
Grounded Confidence
“I no longer need the world to validate me — I know who I am.”
I used to live for validation—overthinking every word, people-pleasing, and letting criticism define me. Through the uncomfortable work, I’ve faced my patterns, built healthy boundaries, and learned to trust myself. Today, I live with clarity, strength, and grounded power.
I used to move through life proving, performing, and perfecting—chasing validation and trying to be ‘enough’ in others’ eyes. Now, there’s space, awareness, and choice. I’ve faced my patterns, owned my triggers, and built boundaries that honor my needs. I no longer crumble under criticism or avoid discomfort. I speak more truth, recover faster, and trust myself more deeply. What I feel now is grounded power—a confidence rooted in knowing who I am and what I bring. I’m proud of the man I’m becoming, and I’m ready for whatever’s next.
Client, 2025
Testimonials
What people are saying:
Jay Scott and the Integrated Male system are highly effective in assisting men in transcending the limitations of the "nice guy" mentality, people-pleasing behaviors, and in uncovering their intrinsic self-worth. I cannot emphasize enough how profoundly Jay has facilitated my progress in overcoming a mindset characterized by rigid contractual thinking. For example, he adeptly guided me through the challenges of rumination and overthinking, which has significantly enhanced my overall quality of life. I wholeheartedly recommend his services; at the very least, I encourage you to take advantage of his complimentary consultation session to explore how he can assist you in advancing your personal development.
- Troy D.
"Just talking to someone who understands my issues already feels like a huge weight is off my shoulders and reduced my anxiety. My wife has noticed a huge change in how I show up in our marriage now. I have learned more in a few weeks than I have in years of therapy"
— Paret
"I was tired of losing relationships with people I wanted in my life. Jay helped me identify previously unknown areas that seemed counterintuitive to what I wanted, and now I am taking charge of my life. I am more confident and ready to take on any challenge".
— Nicholas
"I am grateful to be on this journey with you. I am grateful for, and inspired by your leadership.
— Sidharth
"I wouldn't be were I am at, without you seeing the potential in me"
— Cody
"Jay has a special gift of taking hard to understand concepts and making them incredibly easy to understand and implement. It's really amazing! He has this ability to spot the issue and help me find the solution"
- Andreas
"What I love about working with Jay is the follow up and accountability he provides to help me make lasting changes. I don't have to take notes or ever wonder what to do between calls. I have everything I need to make the changes I want to make."
- Matthew
Honest, real, incredibly knowledgeable, yet down to earth, Jay Scott is a perfect choice for Men’s Coaching. Jay is a kind man and great listener. His calm demeanor and full, present, engagement always leave me feeling better, and gives me crucial direction with some succinct gems of wisdom. Besides being a coaching client, I have participated in a Jay-led group for over a year, and it has been extremely beneficial, not to mention fun!
- Tony V.
I can't really explain how a men's group works, but something happens. I always feel... connected. And seen. Like someone gets my world, and I get theirs. At least a little bit. And that's a lot. Jay. Your presence, while never intrusive (which is saying a lot in your role), has just the right touch. Present, supportive, non-judgmental, helpful but not preachy or imposing. And people find you, and then people hang out and practice being real together.
-- James A.
The men's group is my favorite event of the week. Jay's deep observation skills and kind advice make even difficult conversations enjoyable. Having a connection with real guys and the ability to put what you're going through to in context is the perfect break from being stuck with your own thoughts.
